I'm doing this for my own enjoyment, so please keep things fun for me by following these guidelines:

Private messages

It is distracting to me - and rude to everyone else - to attempt to maintain a bunch of private discussions. I find it stressful and not very fun. (Why would you want to put me through that??). I will ONLY respond to your request for private if you:

• Are kind and respectful


• Have something interesting / unique / specific to discuss in private (not just the usual "hi hru's" - that's what the public channel is for)


• TELL ME what that interesting / unique discussion is going to be about rather than just begging for a message


• A modest tip helps, for sure.

Watching your cam

The answer is no. When I want to see other cams, I am fully capable of finding them on my own. Usually, I'm here to chat and engage with people in fun conversations. It's extremely rude to suggest that I should stop doing what I came here for just to gaze upon your blurry scrotum.

If I'm feeling generous I will silence you for asking me to look at your cam. Usually I'll just ban you.

Tips & Tip Menu

I like tips and they're a good incentive to be here - I like feeling appreciated, and I like pampering myself. But, mostly, I'm here is for the fun of it. When things get too transactional, it feels more like work and less like fun.

What constitutes "fun" varies from day to day, and I'll update my channel topic accordingly. Sometimes I'm game for a little flashing and I'll list a recommended tip in the channel topic. Other times I will set a goal, and you'll know about it. On other days, I'm multitasking and I'm not in the mood to to tricks for treats.

Please do not EVER ask me to do anything for free. Do not tell me to stand, flash, show, dance, or do anything I'm not already doing. I am not your show poodle. And I don't like to haggle so I'm not receptive to "how much for __?".

If you want me to do something for you, make a reasonable offer. If you're nice and you suggest a fair amount I'll probably be game.

Common questions

• Are you married? Yes, it's an open marriage


• Does hubby know you do this? Yes, that's what "open marriage" means. We have no secrets.


• Do you play with others? I hate the word "play;" I like a deeper connection than that. But I date from time to time, and there are no limits on activities or emotions.


• Do you and hubby play with others? NO. That's not what this is about. I date, I form meaningful connections, my husband is supportive of that. We are not swingers.


• Does hubby watch? NO. That's not what this is about. I date, I form meaningful connections, my husband is supportive of that. We are not swingers.


• Are you dating someone now? No, and I haven't been inspired for a long time.


• I live near you. Can we get together? No. I need a meaningful connection. Someone who starts a conversation with "lets meet" is not on the same page.


• Are you into (older / younger / bbc / ...)? No. I need a meaningful connection. Someone who starts a conversation with demographics is not on the same page.


• I cam too. Can we cam together? No. I need a meaningful connection. Someone who starts a conversation with "lets fuck in front of strangers" is not on the same page.


• OK, so, what turns you on? Intelligence, creativity, candor, engaging hobbies and interests, and a way with words.